I sometimes look at relationships and I wonder how they last.  Who am I to talk, I was married for 12 years and it didn’t work.  Truthfully, that should be an even better reason for you to listen to me on what I have to say.  People think just because a person is not in a situation, they have no right to give advice….NOT!!!!  Remember, I said that I WAS in one…..learn from my lessons……

I get it that men are supposed to be the providers.  I get that they are supposed to take care of our needs and if we are blessed we will even get spoiled.  I GET IT!!! As a matter of fact, if you ask me, it really should be a requirement.  Not a privilege, not a benefit but a requirement.  However, why has society made it that men are the only ones who are supposed to do for the woman.

Look at Valentine’s Day!!!  We got this stuff all screwed up.  How come it is called a DAY of LOVE but yet and still it appears as if the women are the only ones getting spoiled and special treatment.  Doesn’t it take two to LOVE?  Isn’t LOVE an AS ONE (two becomes one) thing?  Isn’t LOVE a give and take?  Some of yall are so busy taking and bragging that you don’t even realize that you’re setting yourself up for failure.  Why is that you feel that you deserve all the love and attention but yet and still you aren’t giving it to your mate?

Men love to walk around like they don’t care or that they don’t need attention but that’s a dang lie.  They are worse than us in my opinion.  Why do you think a man breaks his neck to give you so much attention….so you can give it to him back?  MEN LOVE ATTENTION!!! If you don’t give it to him, somebody else will.

You will never find me making up excuses for a grown dang man but I do believe that us, women can be a factor on why our MEN cheat.  I know in the past, that I personally pushed my man to cheat.  I went from showering his tail with everything, mainly my attention and affections, to nothing.  He claims to this day he didn’t cheat but the woman that he started hanging out with is now his wife and they have a kid together.   I knew what I was doing because I was in a situation that I was no longer sure if I wanted to be in.  He made it easy for me by failing for the trap of temptation.  We all benefited, I got out and they got each other.  I can only imagine how that’s working out for them but hey, it’s not my concerned.

You can’t tell me that MEN don’t crave for attention just like us.  Even the strongest most powerful man wants attention.  Not just attention but quality attention. They are similar to kids, reward him with your own version of a star and let him know that you appreciate him on a constant basis.   Simple things go a long way.  I must advice you, don’t start something you can’t finish.  Keep it up and make it a point to put a smile on his face daily.   You know why?  First and foremost is because if he is your man and you decided to be with him….HE DESERVES IT!!!!!!   Secondly, if you won’t do it, please rest assure that someone else will do it.   And won’t have a problem at all taking care of your man.   Never forget what made you want him in the first place!!! Guess what…there’s others out there who are experiencing what you experienced….daily and would die at the opportunity to take care of him and spoil him.  IT’S UP TO YOU!!!!! Spoil that man, so when they do come….he will look at them, shake his head and say….Sweetie, you all that….but you ain’t my baby…..

Until next time…..It’s your girl LATONYA MECHELLE  (Check me out at


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