Got Online-Dating?


I’m back, it’s that time again for Ask Millie, better known as the Black Dear Abby.  Here is the relationship question of the week.  Since the Pre-Launch of my new online dating website, (, I have received many questions from women about the benefits of online dating strictly from a woman’s perspective.  So, I thought I would find about 6 benefits about online dating that will be useful and fun.  So in honor of that, this article is appropriately titled: Got Online-Dating?

There are  many benefits to online dating and for arguments sake, let us look at the benefits for the ladies.  I came with 6 benefits of online dating for women especially for those ladies who hate online dating or that are a weee bit skeptical. It is a fact that people really never know or hear how much work is involved in online dating! Not only do you have to make a profile that doesn’t make it sound like your biological clock is on overdrive, but also you have to think of cutesy replies to every single message, all while warding off the creeps!

I truly understand that the online dating process can be exhausting and often times you want to quit.  This is why I am can now offer an alternative to the exhaustion of the online dating blues.  I have a new online dating website call “ Lunchmaybedinner”.  It is currently in the Pre-Launch  stage and I am allowing the first 500 people to sign up for free.  Yes, there is a catch!.  All I am asking is that when you are signing up for free, in the Ultimate Membership section of the website (Use code: Lunch44), that you provide me with feedback on your experience.  Please scroll down to the bottom of the homepage and click Contact us, fill out the form with your feedback.

Now that I have gotten that out of the way, let me just say that you are a badass for taking a risk and putting yourself out there!  So, let’s get to these 6 benefits:

Benefit #1Perusing and shopping for handsome men is actually fun: Online dating is like shopping for shoes except you get to shop for men.

Benefit #2This may improve your conversation skills: Have you ever had to make a conversation last for an hour with someone that you have absolutely nothing in common with? Sure you have, on basically Every. Single. Online. Date! Good conversation skills take practice, and a bunch of crappy dates gives you that practice.

Benefit #3You are now a badass risk taker: Now, how many times have you heard a girlfriend say, “I just cannot do the online dating because I have to meet someone in person before I know if I like him”? Then you think to yourself, “noooooo really”, “well so do I”. Is this not the whole entire point of a first date?  Stop being a scaredy cat, take a chance!”  The only difference between you and your friend is that while they are home on the couch obsessing for Mr. Right, you actually meet men in person to find out if you like them!

Benefit #4You are through sweating the small stuff:  I know you remember when you used to go on one date with a guy and freak out if he did not call or text the next day (i.e. stalk his Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook account to see what he was up to)?  This neurotic behavior will immediately calm down when you start going on lots of lunch dates–that is because you don’t put all your eggs in one basket. You take the time to really get to know people instead of falling in love with the fantasy. Online dating teaches you that not getting a call or text will not be the worst thing in the world.

Benefit #5Your Deal Breaker List gets smaller: I can only imagine that your list of deal breakers is longer than a mile.  I must admit, my list was long too.  However, online Dating is a brilliant idea for you because the more men you date the more you realize what is really important: good values, chemistry, and compatibility; so you learn not to sweat the small stuff.

Benefit #6Friendship Building:  I must say, there is nothing like bonding with your girlfriends over all the online dating stories that you are going to have.

In conclusion, even if you don’t wind up meeting your next girlfriend/boyfriend/soul mate/best friend through online dating, it is certainly a memorable experience that can positively contribute to your growth as a person.   So, happy online dating ladies!








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