What Single Men need to hear!


I’m back, it’s Millie with Millie in the City with the number one dating and relationship forum in the Washington, DC Metropolitan area.  Now that we have gotten that out the way, I want to discuss Single Men and what they may need when deciding on a potential mate.  So in honor of that, this article is appropriately titled: What Single Men need to hear!

We all know that words are POWERFUL so I thought it time to poll some Single Men and find out some of the things that they need and would like to hear in a women that they hope could be a potential mate.  The power of the spoken word is healing or detrimental–depending on how you use it. Here is some phrases that men, I surveyed wanted to hear:

“Thank you.” – Whether it is something small like picking up your dry cleaning, taking you to dinner, or getting you that Latte in the morning — these two small words go a long way. Let me say this, kindness should never be given to someone for the sake of a return, but gratitude should always be expressed when someone puts in effort.

“I support you.” – Whether we are working on a new business, starting a new job, going back to school, or undertaking any other venture in life — knowing that they have your undying support from the woman they Love, will make them feel like they always have a safety net for when things get rough.

“I’m proud of you.” – I feel like men see their self-worth differently than women do. I asked a man why he was so driven to succeed professionally. I wondered if being a man was good enough“Isn’t being a good man enough?” We strive towards goals and accomplishments whether it be at our job or a business we have chosen to start. Much of our confidence is dependent on how well we do in accomplishing these goals. Having the support of the woman in our life and know that you think we are doing a good job (professionally or personally) is reassuring in ways that many other statements can never be.

“I trust you.” – There is much negativity floating around in the world today and it is much easier to keep ourselves guarded and not fully trust somebody. Here is the truth, if a man does not feel trusted, he will constantly feel insecure in the relationship. He will feel that you will be suspicious of everything he does and/or says and that you will not fully open up to him about how you feel. If a man knows that you trust him, it will bring a whole new level of security to the relationship.

 “You look so handsome.” – It is said good man should always remind his woman how beautiful he thinks she is. In part, because he does not want any other man to do it more than him. However, it is also a great feeling for a man to be told he is handsome by someone that he cares about. Just the word ‘handsome’ holds a different meaning than other compliments and seems to hit men in a little different way. For those men who put effort into their appearance and do not throw on a t-shirt and jeans to go out to dinner, it is appreciated when a man’s efforts are notice.

“I want only you.” – Here are the facts, for any man to know and believe is a great way to let him know that no matter what happened in the past, his past hurts, his past transgressions, that you are still there and want only him. Now, we all know about the so-called “players” have their time that they want to settle down. If you put it all out on the table, that man can never say he did not know.

“I see you!” – Believe it or not, some men get down on themselves about their bodies.  I think they most want better abs or a more defined chest. They often want to feel like they can protect us and themselves. THEY WANT TO FEEL STRONG!  THEY WANT TO FEEL LIKE MEN! For example, if men start putting in the effort to start eating better and working out, they are hoping that there deed get noticed.  They want to be noticed by their woman!!!  By telling a man that you can see an improvement (no matter how small), from their efforts will strengthen them and encourage them to continue along their path. I feel like staying motivated, for a man, sometimes, is not easy.

“I appreciate you.” – This goes beyond the ‘thank you’ point, because appreciating someone for the person that they are is on a different level than appreciating things that they do for you. As men who work to keep you happy, become the best versions of ourselves, be good to others and to our family — it is very important to us to know that our efforts are truly appreciated.

“You make me happy.” – Wowzers. This is a statement right here that is amazing. It encompasses the support, appreciation and trust. Any gentleman who is in a relationship will be striving to be a source of happiness in his woman’s life. Make sure he realizes that he is.

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