Sir, Will You Marry Me?
I’m back, it’s Millie with Millie in the City Matchmaking with the number one dating and relationship forum in the Washington, DC Metropolitan area. Now that we have gotten that out the way, I want to discuss the new women’s movement, “Will you Marry Me”? I have seen many Facebook videos on women now getting down on one knee and proposing to men. So in honor of that, this article is appropriately titled: Sir, Will You Marry Me?
Yes, you heard me right, there is a new women’s movement. Before you get too excited about thoughts of women taking over the world and declaring world domination, this is a slightly different kind of women’s movement. This movement now has made it easier for us women to crush through many glass ceilings, have children if and when we want, and enjoy casual hook-ups, nonetheless one effect does not exactly seem like something to celebrate: More women now are popping the age ‘ole’ traditional question that has usually done by the man. I was looking at a poll yesterday that 1 in 10 women are asking their man to marry them because they got tired of waiting to him to do it. (just gag me with a spoon)
Hopefully, I am sure that there are instances where it makes sense that the woman feels completely confident in her decision to be the one to propose marriage. Hey, I say more power to those women! In my opinion, I would think having to ask the man for his hand in marriage does more harm than good and probably has the direct opposite of the women empowerment movement.
I know so many female friends who live with their significant others and they, in my opinion, do enough for their men as it is, i.e., at least 50% of the housework, most of the grocery shopping and most of the cooking—all while working their own jobs. I would think that having to also put the burden on yourself to propose to your guy is almost like saying “Oh okay and sure thing sweetie, I am more than willing to take on ALL the work including asking you to be my husband.” I am sorry, screw that! I wonder if most of the single women in this world feel that at least a man could do is make up his own mind to get married, plan the proposal, and get on one knee (any of these statements registering ladies?)
Moreover, don’t we really want to know that he made up in his own mind to propose furthermore, wouldn’t you always wonder if/when/how he would have done it himself? I know–I would! To be honest, when I read further into the survey it found that 75% of women who asked their men to marry them wished their partner had beaten them to it. It really is not anti-feminist to allow your man to take the initiative sometimes in fact, it is the same thing as letting him be the one to get you flowers or enjoying when he is the one initiating a good time in bed. I live and breathe on what the Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger has preached, there are certain times we need to let our men wear the pants and lead the way. He will feel more secure and, therefore, happier, and in turn, so will you. It’s a relationship win-win. (Love her)
Will all of this and in conclusion, I do not mind if you call me old-fashioned, but I cannot help but think most women will be more satisfied — and their relationships will be better off — if they let marriage proposals remain a man’s job. But this leads me to the most important question of the day: Are you for or against women asking their men to marry them?
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