1. Toxic People:
If you find yourself in a quasi-parasitic relationship with someone, get the hell out of there while the going is good, and don’t look back. That’s easier said than done a lot of the time, but it doesn’t make your need to leave any less legitimate.
2. Appeasing Everyone:
Listen… You could be the most likable person on planet Earth. You could be the guy who calls his mother every night, always has his friends’ backs, volunteers at soup kitchens, helps lift everyone around him, isn’t weird in social situations, is loyal and hardworking, etc.—you could be a literal perfect human being—and some dickhead out there will still find a reason to not like you. I ultimately worry less about what others think of me because I’m confident in the man I am. If I like me but you don’t like me, you’re probably not worth me worrying about anyway.
3. Your Need for Control:
Life happens. No matter how much planning or plotting or sacrificing you do, life is always waiting just around the corner to throw a stick into the spokes of your bicycle. And, the more intricate your plan is, the more things there are to go wrong. It’s best to make general plans that flex easily, and then take care of the finer details as you move along down the road.
4. Dwelling and Holding Grudges:
Let me clarify here that when I say “give up grudges,” I don’t mean that you shouldn’t hold people accountable for their actions—especially if those actions are hurtful ones against you. What I am saying is don’t dwell on or lose sleep over the people in this world who hurt you or betray you. Write them off for the pieces of shit they are, cross them of the list and move on with your damn life.
Don’t ever be the kind of man who needs to make excuses. Making a mistake sucks, but being the kind of guy who makes a mistake and follows it up with a million excuses is even worse. After all, life isn’t about whether or not you’re going to screw up every once in a while—that part is a given.
6. The Need to Gossip:
This is one of the most unnecessary and immature things you can do, and if you’re the kind of person who can’t manage to keep other peoples’ names out of your mouth, now is the time to change. Not only does gossiping draw negative attention to you as the kind of person who spreads rumors or fans flames, but it also could significantly damage your relationships with both the people about whom you’re talking shit and the people to whom you’re talking shit when they realize you’re not a trustworthy or forthright person.